Soul Warrior's Journey

Diving into life and Entrepreneurship

May 19, 2022 Dorman Baltazar
Soul Warrior's Journey
Diving into life and Entrepreneurship
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Speaker 1:

Hello, and welcome to the soul warriors journey. I'm your host, dormant Valar. And today I am, uh, pretty excited to share my next guest with you. Uh, you know, they say, uh, next to every, uh, successful man is a powerful woman. And I believe that that saying is very true because, uh, we're it not for this amazing woman that I have in my life as my, uh, best friend, my, my wife and the mother of my incredible children and also the, uh, businesses that I've, that I've, uh, brought to reality. Um, I wouldn't be here with you today. So, uh, help me in, uh, in giving a, uh, Hardy welcome to my beautiful and incredibly amazing, uh, wife, uh, Chantel Baltazar. Welcome Sean.

Speaker 2:

Thanks hun.<laugh>

Speaker 1:

Is just kinda awkward for you to be sitting here, uh, chatting with me on this podcast

Speaker 2:

A little. Yep.

Speaker 1:

So, um, well, let's talk about our journey. Uh, you know, as you know, uh, it's been a journey in itself to really allow my soul to, to guide me and, uh, lead us to where we are now, even though, you know, before we came here, I was a little resistant, but just the journey, uh, in coming here to believe where we're, uh, recording this episode, um, I FD a little bit until you stopped me at that at the front door where we lived in Saskatoon and, uh, helped me to make that decision. Um, let's talk about that. And then also talk about, you know, being married to someone crazy like me, an entrepreneur, and, you know, with your number skills and your, your, your, your numbered brain, um, and then also about love and our relationship and parenting. I mean, there's so much that we can talk about we've experienced so much since we've joined union.

Speaker 3:

<laugh>

Speaker 2:

Just a little background, I think is important because when we lived in bullies with our first, it wasn't something that we had thought about for too long, but it was just how the universe brought us here that was necessary at the time. And then I kind of fell in love with, with the, the beauty and the very diverse, um, here in Belal living here in Bel. Yeah. And we moved back to Canada to have our second child, and then I had had it in my mind ever since then. And I'm probably back and forth in my brain, but a big part of me wanted to come back here. And so every year for probably 12 years, mm-hmm<affirmative> every year I would I'd figure out like, how can we go back? Even if it's just for a month or, or bring, bring a group of people here to enjoy this beautiful place as, as a retreat or what that might look like. And it never panned out. It never worked out. And then in early 20, 21, so this is pretty much a year after we had closed the studio that we were kind of our second home called breathe. Mm-hmm<affirmative>, mm-hmm<affirmative> then, uh, we sat down with our business coach and friend Rishi, who, if you've interviewed here before. Yeah, yeah. And he did a north star exercise with us to really get clear on the bright north star that directs what we are doing as individuals and as a couple and in that exercise. So this is early 2021. I Was really clear that by the end of 2021, I wanted to spend some time in Belize. I didn't know what that looked like, but, and then I actually kind of forgot about it. I didn't put a too much energy into it, although it was always in the back of my mind, kind of A lot of the time<affirmative>. And then as the winter settled in, and all of a sudden restrictions in our province were getting tighter and tighter. And we started to realize that as homeschool as a homeschool family, that we would be spending a lot of time indoors. Although we're very outdoorsy, there are certain limitations when it comes to minus 30 Celsius and how long you can spend outside. And, and when there's not a lot of indoor activities, I was just envisioning a very cold winter. So then I really started to push it. So October 20, 21, I was pretty certain that this is what we were supposed to do. And even then I wasn't a hundred percent sure that this is where we should be, but mm-hmm<affirmative>. I was really having a stronger desire to spend a winter in the warm weather. So then I just started purging and getting ready for transition, not, and boy, did she start the purge? I listed everything on marketplace. And then, uh, early November, just a month later, I ended up selling my car like right beginning of November, someone came to look at it and I still wasn't certain I wanted to sell it, but I'd had it listed for a little while. And this couple came up and they looked at the car and they said, can we take it right now? And Doman was in the shower. And I was like, okay, I guess I'm selling my car. And then that was a big turning point for me. But honestly still Doman said he wanted to make it happen, but still he wasn't. But really this whole 12 years, a big part of why I wanted to come back was for our kids to experience their lesion, culture and heritage mm-hmm<affirmative> before they reached teenage years and looked at it differently. I wanted them to experience it as more innocent beings.

Speaker 1:

Mm-hmm<affirmative>

Speaker 2:

So we hadn't booked our tickets and this is like middle of November already. And then like Doman said, he's standing at the door ready to go out to, I don't know, do whatever he was gonna do

Speaker 1:

Heading out to a meeting.

Speaker 2:

And, and I just said, I, I don't feel you're you're in this yet. And here it is middle of November. And I had in my head, I wanted to leave November 19th, which is Griffina settlement day. Is that right? Yeah.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

So in my head I wanted to leave and there was actually a flight cuz flights were not very, there's only flights going to Belize right now, anyway, between November and April with west jet, which is the easiest way to get here from Canada. So I, um, just had it in my head November 19th was the day I wanted to leave. And here we are, like, let's say November 15th<laugh> mm. Or 10th. And so I just didn't give you an ultimatum. I was just like, I don't wanna take you here if you don't wanna come here. So then cuz you were kind of hesitant that whole time.

Speaker 1:

Well, cuz I had just, I had just, uh, I was getting back and I felt like the universe was directing me back into artist management. Um, and I had met uh, a really awesome artist who I fell in love with his personality, his music, uh, the way he conducted himself and you know, we were vibing with each other and you know, we were, we agreed that I was gonna be his manager and I had drafted up the contract. He was ready to sign and you know, we had, we had booked our first, um, event at, at uh, one drip. And so it was just, things were going in that direction. And for years I had, you know, said that I wasn't, I was done with music and artist management after I closed my, uh, management company down in California years ago. Um, and so, you know, I, I didn't want to go that route, but you know, just getting to know, um, the artists that I was interested in, in managing and knowing that we were aligned, that our energies were aligned. And then now it was like, you know, with everything going on with, with Corona and all. And uh, yeah, I was just, I was a bit torn, but I also knew that our kids, that I also wanted our kids to experience, um, their beliefs in heritage, their Gar culture. And uh, like you said, you know, um, bring them here when they're young, when you know, we don't have to deal with teenage attitudes. Um, so yeah, and then I think we listed my truck.

Speaker 2:

Well, we had it listed for a while because you wanted to sell it anyway. We felt like we needed a different vehicle anyway. So we, we, we had it listed for a while, but then, um,

Speaker 1:

It was the day before, what, wasn't it?

Speaker 2:

The day before we, we got on the flight

Speaker 1:

After I said, yes, we'll go mm-hmm

Speaker 2:

<affirmative><laugh> yeah. Getting back to teenage years though. I don't think that our kids are gonna have attitudes. I just wanted them to embrace it more, more innocently as opposed to having too many opinions about things.

Speaker 1:

Mm, Okay. So then we, uh, I sold by truck,

Speaker 2:

But backing up a little bit because then we still weren't decided it was very tight in our decision making process. From the day we decided to the day we booked our flight to the day, it was only less than two weeks. I think from the day we booked our flight to the day we hopped on that flight. And so packing was kind of this weird, um,

Speaker 1:

Well, it was almost as if though once we, uh, were clear that we were leaving and we started selling stuff, then the universe just seemed to just started to make things simpler and easier and faster. And it was like, okay, we're going.

Speaker 2:

But it probably wasn't until we booked our flight. So that was like 10 days before we left mm-hmm<affirmative> and it wasn't until then that we actually really started packing things up and deciding what are we keeping and what are we storing? What are we giving away? What are we selling? Yeah. Yeah. What do we need to pack to take along for six months or whatever in your head, you were thinking three months and mine. I was thinking six. And then once we bought our flights, it was like full speed ahead. And I didn't stop for 10 days packing our house and figuring out. So just side note that essentially the lease on our house was up. And so it was a perfect time to transition out of the house anyway, and it felt so good to get rid of stuff just in general. Mm-hmm<affirmative> so even if we weren't gonna go, I was still very happy to just go through that process of cleaning the house out. And I probably hauled three or four, maybe five truckloads of stuff, just like the thrift store and the trash. And yeah, it just felt good to get rid of stuff and feel what was really important as far as stuff goes. So that, that felt really good. But then as we were packing our stuff up, then five days before we were set to leave, we had already had our flights booked. Yeah. Then you're a good friend and a friend who I'd been talking to who was helping us try to find a place here, ended up in a car accident and passed away. And that threw me for a loop because he was probably the person I wanted to see most coming back here in that I thought I was just super excited for the kids to get to know as a Griffin, a man, and, And one of the most respected divers in this village, if not even in this country. And I was so excited for them to get to know the ocean under his guidance. And then for that to not be a part of our journey, it just, it really set this heaviness that I wasn't expecting, but we were already coming. So yeah. So then, um, the kids, I feel like were open to the journey and there was definitely some hesitation, but actually getting on the flight and that transition of being on the plane they'd, hadn't been on a plane that they could remember since they were babies. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then the connections were horrible. So then we flew all through the night and they didn't sleep for an entire, I don't know, 24 hours or more, and then little eyes closed, but nothing more than that. So then when we landed, it was super overwhelming cuz they hadn't slept in a brand new country. They went from snowstorm when we left to landing in super hot, hot, yeah. Muggy weather, lots of bugs and, and then trying to feel into new food and, and just all those emotions. So, but quickly as, so that was just the second day. And then we came to the ocean. They'd never seen the ocean in their life and I hadn't seen it until I was in my twenties, but still knowing that their dad spent most of his life near the ocean mm-hmm<affirmative> for them, it was kind of big and they didn't really get out of the ocean for a couple of months. That

Speaker 1:

Was just, yeah,

Speaker 2:

Like embracing

Speaker 1:

It every morning. They would want it. They almost stayed. They'd stay in there all day if we let them, when we first got here. Um, so now let's fast forward to, to being here and uh, living here and getting settled into the culture and like we're, we're in a Garin, a village, um, it's, we're in a Garin village, a tourist destination, um, a resort, uh, almost a resort Mecca here in Hopkins. And so, you know, we have a lot of people coming through here, um,

Speaker 2:

Which I love, I love, that's what I always loved about traveling before I had kids. I always thought I'd travel with kids. And then we really haven't this whole mm-hmm,<affirmative> like 10, 12 years, but I loved experiencing people's different view on the world. And you get that a lot here. Like it's not often that you go through a week, at least without meeting people from another country.

Speaker 1:

Well, since we've been here, we've met so many different people. We've met a few different people who are here visiting and we've made some incredible connections with people from, uh, from the us, mainly the us so far. Yeah. We've, we've met a few Canadians, um, but we've met a lot of Americans, um, since we've been here,

Speaker 2:

One of, as I'm thinking back, one of the reasons that, well, the main reason that we left to begin with, so almost 12 years ago was because we were expecting another child and there's a whole, a whole experience about that. But the other thing was, it was just hard to make a living here. Yeah, yeah. Especially relying on this community just because the resorts provide, um, opportunities for sure. And they have in this village to a large extent. So during touristy season, there's a lot of opportunities. Mm-hmm<affirmative> when, when that season slows down, there's a lot less. So that was definitely a part of the reason I, I wasn't pushing it too hard to move back. And especially, I think you weren't pushing it too hard to move back because the stability of a more, uh, advanced society, if you will, it's a lot easier to build a business. So coming back here, I was very aware of this and now creating a business outside of what I'm normally used to. So being a doula, being around my clients more and then Figuring out how are we going to reach our community from a distance and being in a small place.

Speaker 1:

So for those who don't know what a doula is, do you want to just expound on that a little bit or expand on that a little bit,

Speaker 2:

Essentially it's a birth coach or a pregnancy coach, someone who empowers women as they're expecting and For the most part through their birthing and postnatal experience. And it's really for both parents, it's not necessarily just for the mom. It's really, for both parents who are kind of treading some new territory. Usually a lot of my clients would be first time parents sometimes second time, but From everything from A big part of it is just experiencing pregnancy and birth in a more calm way.

Speaker 1:

Mm Okay. So trying to figure out how you could share that, uh, passion and experience or knowledge here

Speaker 2:

That, because it is still a big passion of mine. I love talking about birth and, and empowering women who are expecting and birth and parenting, but then I've over the past couple of years, I've really been diving into The concept of aging into youth and Making choices that bring more youth as, as I get older. Mm-hmm<affirmative> so still in women's wellness, still, still in women's health, but then encompassing so much more than just pregnancy and, and birth and parenting, but just overall general choices that we make as women and how those choices contribute to health as we get older. So that I like this, this concept of health span versus lifespan. Mm-hmm<affirmative> are you living a lot of healthy years or are you just living a lot of years?

Speaker 1:

Right, right. Well, you know, I, I feel that, uh, sometimes it's easier to live a lot of years because even though, uh, we know there are certain foods that we shouldn't be eating and things that we shouldn't be putting in our bodies, uh, we still do it. We still eat those foods that we know could not only raise our, our, our cholesterol and are not healthy for our hearts and, you know, um, aid and obesity, but the flavor, I think a lot of people go back to oh, but it tastes so good. Uh, I'm only gonna have, like when we first came here eating tamales and Garches and pinatas and empanadas, like, you know, we went a little crazy and even, um, yeah. So I think, I think sometimes you, you say, or we say as human beings, like, oh, I'm just gonna do it for a little bit. I haven't done it in a while, especially for me as an athlete, like, oh, I don't eat that much. I don't do that all the time. I'm just gonna enjoy it. I haven't been here for a while. Let me have another tamales or, you know,<laugh>

Speaker 2:

But, but it's interesting though, because a lot of the cultural food here is quite healthy. It just depends how they make it though.

Speaker 1:

Exactly.

Speaker 2:

Tamales are actually, it's just like corn, flour, chicken, and a sauce. It's really not something that if you enjoy it in a good way, it's just depending on how it's prepared. Right. Right. So anyway, we could get into a whole bunch of different things because when we talk about cholesterol, there's a lot of good cholesterol. So when you're thinking about raising your cholesterol, that's usually not that important of a factor overall. It's more the whole package. It's like, are you fueling your body with the majority of vegetables? Is your plate full of vegetables or is it full of a whole bunch of other stuff?

Speaker 1:

<laugh> right, right.

Speaker 2:

But anyway, so it comes back to how do we build this business while we're on the road? And now we're at a point where while we're at a point where we're, we're making a decision where we actually really love it here, and it's like, how can we now make it more of a, a home base for our kids going into the future so that they can experience this culture more and where we can have them moving between both of their countries. Mm-hmm,

Speaker 1:

<affirmative>

Speaker 2:

So creating a business that really can go anywhere with us. And I always, so I forget who told me that six months is like the time that is required to really fully embrace and experience a new way of life. So if you're moving somewhere or you've changed jobs that this amount of time, six months is, is often how long it takes to settle into that new environment, whatever it might be a new relationship, a new, whatever it might be. Mm-hmm

Speaker 1:

<affirmative>, mm-hmm

Speaker 2:

<affirmative>. So now that we're reaching this six month point and figuring out, okay, how can we really embraces fully? It feels like it's interesting because there's this word transition in birth, where you're just about to give birth. And it's so intense that you, you convince yourself that your body's actually not capable of birthing this child, but there's no other choice. It has, the baby has to come out. Right. Right. But somehow your brain just gets so engulfed in the intensity of it, that, that it feels like it's not possible. Mm-hmm,

Speaker 1:

<affirmative>, mm-hmm<affirmative>. And I feel that's the same with entrepreneurship because, you know, you, you, you decide to give birth to this business and you do everything that you need to do to get it going. And you do all the backend work to prepare to launch it. And then you get to that place where it's, you know, okay, I've done all the background work and I've done all my homework and now it's time to share it. And a lot of times, um, it is, it's like, oh, I'm not, I'm not ready yet. I need to do this. And, you know, even though you know that you're ready, it, it, there is always that thing that in the back of your mind, I don't know if it's cultural or it's ancestral or hand me down, uh, thoughts that you got from somewhere that says, uh, holy smack, am I really the one to do this? Like, who am I to think that I can do this? Right. And is, I mean, I don't know if that is kind of like aligned with what you're talking about when it comes to giving birth. And I, and I know I'm not trying to, I know how powerful it is to give birth to amazing children. Um, but you know, a business it's kind of like the mentality that I experience sometimes when I'm bringing forth a business, like even launching this new business here in Belize, like I've done all the background work, it's time to launch it. And I still feel like there is just like something else I could do to launch it a little better.

Speaker 2:

So making that analogy, I feel like we're in this transition stage where we either gotta dive in like put on our, our oxygen tank and just like go for it. And I'm totally scared of diving here. I don't know if I'll ever learn how to dive, but it's just, I love watching videos of people diving and, and exploring this underwater world that I've never seen. Like they have. So for me, it's just diving into the unknown and really with homeschooling, that's been my main focus for the last two years. And so it's a delicate balance between being there for my family and supporting you as you're discovering your work. Mm-hmm<affirmative>. So it's a huge transition stage for us right now with a number of things, finding a place to live and figuring out how we can work and live on the road, essentially. And for me, that's a dream of mine, maybe not for everybody, but for me, it's being able to explore and experience life more fully. And I feel like that's, that's why we did this. Like, we took a huge risk in getting rid of pretty much all of our things. Mm-hmm,<affirmative>, mm-hmm<affirmative> and having a very small home base in Canada to simply experience life from a different point of view,

Speaker 1:

Pretty much, pretty much. All right. Well, you know, I, as always, you know, I love you, I'm grateful to have you in my life and all of your support and, you know, you sharing your, your knowledge and your experience with me, uh, and you know, helping me bring these beautiful children into the world and, you know, also creating a beautiful life for us. Um, uh, I want, thank you for joining me this morning and for, uh, um, sharing a little bit of you with my audience. So thank you for being here.

Speaker 2:

Thanks, hun.

Speaker 1:

Okay. Love you as always, I am your host dormant, Baltazar, and welcome to the soul warriors journey where you get it real, uh, and unfiltered in, uh, it's all in an effort to help you to grow and to realize that in each moment you are exactly where you need to go. And for this episode, I'd like to leave you with, uh, a quote from Earl Nightingale and in it, uh, he says our rewards in life will always be an exact proportion to our contribution in life, our service. So whatever that is, uh, be sure that your service is, uh, to not only improve the lives of others, but also to improve your life. Again, I'll repeat that our rewards in life will always be an exact proportion to our contribution and our service have an incredible day today.

Speaker 4:

Peace.